A New Mistress...

This post has nothing to do with being a stepmom, but it is about having a PS3 Video playing addicted husband!  I (stupidly) bought Hubbs a PS3 for his birthday a year and a half ago.  He sold me on wanting the blue ray player and occasionally, I STRESS OCCASIONALLY playing a video game.  Well ladies I fell for that hook, line and sinker!

He had NEVER played video games while dating or even when we were just friends, had I known then what I know now I never would have purchased said video game machine.  I HATE IT!  It has become "the mistress" in our house, it is consuming his time, he plays on an almost daily basis, and we have been fighting because of it.

I think it all started when I got pregnant and started going to bed super early, the 1st trimester was terrible for me, and I remember going to bed shortly after dinner, so Hubbs was left alone.  It didn't help that none of our shows were on TV, or ones that he could watch without me, so how did he fill his time?  Playing video games!  He just got some new war game and LOVES IT!   Like seriously loves it, I think he thinks about gaming more than me!  Well truthfully I don't think, I know he thinks about gaming more than me, it is so obvious.  While I am happy he has found something that doesn't cost much, and keeps him at home I have been begging him for some "us" time and finally blew up told him how his gaming was making me feel.

I admit it wasn't the best delivery, I was pretty upset, and while I would like to blame pregnancy hormones, I was pretty demanding, emotional, and quite honestly pathetic.

Hubbs seems to be needing more alone time lately, basically ever since he discovered his game and I am feeling invisible in our house.

After hearing how upset I was, he started being more attentive.  I could tell he was really trying, and would spend the majority of the evening with me, and then would ask, "What my plan was?"  Which seems to be code for "Do you have something else you can do so I can play?"

I never thought I would say this, but I am JEALOUS of a video game player, JEALOUS.  I have had thoughts about taking it outside and smashing it, but then I snap back to reality and realize I have brought this on myself.  I have had a lot of things going on lately and have enjoyed having my own times, I have several girls nights planned and am getting ready for the arrival of peanut.  I have gotten over the initial shock of losing my husband to his PS3, and realized that if I let him play he is in a far better mood then if I try to make him do something else with me, so in a way I have given in, and let the PS3 win for now.

I don't want to be the nagging wife, I hate that he has found something he is so passionate about and enjoys so much that has nothing to do with me or us.  I hate that I go to bed most nights alone, and wake up alone because he either plays late, or gets up early to play.

I long for the day when Hubbs would rather spend a night in bed with me, then in the living room gaming......I am hoping this is a phase and will at some point lose its luster.....one can hope right?