Signing the Son up for Activites

Well the son is turning 4 in a month, he will be starting preschool in the fall and is growing up before our eyes.  While PEG might not feel the son is ready to be in school and wants to hold him back from going to kindergarten, so basically he would do preschool, then pre-k, then kindergarten when he is 6 1/2, she is more then ready to sign him up for every sport activity available to his age group. 

He lives in the mid-west so they play some sports (baseball, or tee ball) in the summer.  Different from where we live, apparently PEG has the son signed up for soccer this spring, and wanted to sign him up for teeball in the summer.  Knowing that is our time with the son she texted Hubbs and demanded asked the following:

"Tball is June 4 til July 16th every Saturday...can you plan your summer visit around that?  I just wanna get him registered if you can Im not going to enroll him if hell be there maybe twice.  Let me know I will get you a soccer sk as soon as enrollment comes out I know its this spring...he can do flag football not this fall but next but can do basketball this fall :) yea! The fun stuff starts!!"

Hubbs and I had previously talked about the summer schedule, the past 2 years we have picked him up middle of June and return him last weekend in July/1st of August.  That time works well with us, the weather is usually pretty good.  Summers are brutal here and I would love to have him May to middle of June but we like getting to celebrate July 4th with him, and since peanut is due July 14th we wanted him to be able to spend a couple of weeks with his sister before he had to go back to his mom's house.  So we had planned on getting him about the same dates.  Nothing is set in stone, we do not have to notify PEG until April 15, and Hubbs gets the power to decide the summer visit.  Love how PEG is trying to dictate when we can and cannot have the son.

He responded that we planned on getting him the usual time so it probably wouldn't work out but we wouldn't know until April.  She wrote back and said,

"Were going to have conflicts about baseball.  I know you know how important it is for him to be involved do not peanlize the son."  then later.... "I dont mind him missing a game but can you use the last half of July and August?  I really hope you're not going to make the son choose btwn baseball and you.  Can I assume you will take the son to soccer games during your weekend visits?"

THE SON IS 3, almost 4, what choosing does he have to make at this point?  We don't even know if he will like playing sports.  I could understand if he was 10 and in competition baseball and loved it and was really going to have to choose but I hardly think this situation compares.  I think starting him out with 2 activities (soccer and basketball) will be more than enough to get him started. 

I don't understand why she is so worried about him being involved in sports so young but then thinks school is going to be too tough on him.  She is a school junkie, had to graduate high school early, college early and is supposedly getting her masters right now.  She has told Hubbs on more than one occasion how important school and education are, yet she doesn't want her son to start.  I cannot follow her logic, nor do I try anymore.

I hate that she feels tee ball is more important to the son than spending 6 weeks with his dad.  Hubbs and I know as he gets older he might not stay the entire time, and he will have a life he won't like leaving for that long of a period, that time is going to be hard enough, should we really have to start worrying about that at age 4??

I checked the custody paperwork and it states we can schedule our 6 week visit between May 26th at 6pm- but he must be returned 7 days before school starts which would be August 11th.  So Basically she isn't wanting us to use our full time.  We are just going to stick with our usual plan of father's day weekend in June and return him July 31st.