Stepmom Friends

I cannot say enough how extremely helpful it is to have stepmom friends.  About a year and a half ago I met up with some stepmamas in my area for dinner/drinks.  We have been meeting monthly ever since.  Our dinners are something I look forward to, and enjoy being a part of.

It has been a place to vent, ask for opinions, hear other stepmom stories, and spend time with people who have a much better understanding of your family dynamic and life then a non-stepmom can.  There is no judgment, there is no blame, just a bunch of us listening to eachother, offering support, and providing humor in a sometimes tough situation.

I think outsiders view our group as a place to bash the bio-moms, but in reality we don't spend a lot of time doing that, every meeting is different, it just depends on what we are going through and what new stories we have to share with the group.

Afterall we are just married women, who inherited some kids along the way, who sometimes enjoy that moment of escape to admit our shortcomings, and hear from other friendly faces that everything is ok, and we are not the problem.

Last night was our monthly dinner, and to my surprise the ladies threw me a baby shower.  It meant the world, they didn't need to do that, but I was so touched by their thoughtfulness.  It is so nice to have people to share the drama associated with stepfamily life, its also nice to have people to celebrate the good times of stepfamily life.  Little Peanut is a lucky girl, and is going to be loved by so many!