Mother's Day

Wow time is really flying by, I swear I do not know where the time has gone.  Only 8 weeks left until little peanut arrives, maybe even less time.  I am going to my doctor every two weeks now and have an appointment on Thursday.  I passed my glucose test with flying colors the first time around, so I was pretty pumped about that.  I got two very sweet mothers day cards from my baby to be and one from our fur kids.  Hubbs did a great job acknowledging the day was special for me, and he got me the new iphone 4.  Thank you little peanut!  I cannot wait to celebrate next year when she is with us in person, it is really going to make the day special.

I am 32 weeks along, 21 lbs have been gained and overall I am feeling pretty good.  I can tell Peanut is growing like a weed because her movements are becoming more and more painful, she can actually move and contort my stomach into weird shapes.  Its pretty entertaining to watch, she must get bored in work meetings because she moves around a lot during that time.  We got her bedding in last week and it is precious, I am so glad my fellow stepmom friend Tulip- Family in Bloom, recommended this website to me for baby bedding.  They did such a great job!  It looks precious.  Now I am just waiting on her painted letters to arrive, and the glider/rocker and we should be good to go.  I still have a bunch of little things to buy, but I am having a work shower on May 20th so I am going to hold out until then before I make any purchases.

I have not been able to blog in so long, so I have a lot of catching up to do, so sorry for the long rambling post!  Feel free to stop reading now!

We got to spend spring break/Easter with the son and we had a really good time.  He is growing up so fast, but he still seems excited about his new sister and overall I think this summer is going to be a lot of fun, crazy but fun.  I have a  few things I want to get to do with the son before peanut comes so we are hoping to cram that all in before her arrival.  Then I told Hubbs he and the son will need to do some father son things together so he doesn't feel left out when peanut is demanding most of our attention.  Hubbs is flying up there this Friday to spend the weekend with him, and get to watch his soccer games, I know Hubbs is really looking forward to that. 

Hubbs' family had the son on 3 different occasions last week, babysitting since PEG was at work.  One visit was an overnight stay, then Thursday night, and then all day Saturday from 10am to 10pm.  We got to webcam with the little guy on Saturday and he wished me a Happy Mother's Day.  It was precious, he was really cute, he then told Hubbs Happy Mother's Day and his mommy.  I told him to make sure to give his mom a big hug and kiss and tell her Happy Mother's Day on Sunday.  I was proud of him, and he was so excited to wish us all a good day.

He must have said something to PEG the following day, and somehow she twisted it into him calling me mom so she berated Hubbs with texts messages about how I am not the mom, I am barely considered a babysitter with what little time I see the son, and she is sick and tired of being disrespected by us.  She said the son calls her boyfriend dad all the time, she corrects him, and he see her BF way more than his own father.  Can we say dig??

Why does she always find it necessary to bash my husband as a father, diminish my 3 year relationship with the son, and our importance to him?  First and foremost the son NEVER calls me mom, or hasn't since he was old enough to know I am not his mom.  He has always called me by my name and to my knowledge I have never heard him call anyone else Dad, why would he?  Unless of course he is being coached by PEG.  The one thing I have learned about PEG is that whenever she gets upset/mad at us about something and starts accusing us of doing something,  she is usually doing what she blames us for.  While we might live 12 hours away all of our time spent with the son is 24 hours a day, we only work during his summer visit but our hours are the same everyday of every week.  I work 8-4 and Hubbs is 8-5 so we spend every evening and every weekend with the son.  Aside from the summer visit all holidays, and weekends are spent work free, we spend the entire time with the son.  When he is with PEG he goes to daycare every day and then when she works nights, he goes somewhere else.  She also works every weekend so he doesn't get to spend much time with her there.  The time she does get off she is usually sleeping and takes him to daycare.  So maybe one day a week they spend together and about 3 nights a week.  That really isn't much when you think about it.  For being the full time parent she doesn't spend as much time with him as we would if he were living with us.  Makes me sad, he gets left with so many different people, I hate he doesn't have a set schedule or more consistency in his life, it just isn't fair.

It makes me worry about what she says to the son, was anything said to him?  Did she repeat to him what she texted us?  Did she convey the message to the son that I am not a parent to him, and shouldn't be viewed that way?  It all just pisses me off, she is such an insecure baby and you would think after 4 years, and all the consistent monthly visits from Hubbs and how much time is spent with the son regardless of the distance she would acknowledge Hubbs as a good father, she would acknowledge I am the stepmom and she would stop going back to things she said in the beginning that have now been proven wrong.

I mean she got pregnant and Hubbs lived 12 hours away, its not like he moved away from her and the son.  Nothing has changed in their situation except she promised to move to our state and shockingly never did.  Hubbs has held up to every single promise he made to PEG, even ones I feel he should have broken.  He kept his word, but PEG has proven time after time, she cannot be trusted, she is not a changed person, and nothing is ever her fault.  EVER