Baby Pictures

I made a Halloween gift for Hubbs to give the son.  I wanted Hubbs to give him something that he thought was from his little sister.  I want him to feel close to little H even though he doesn't get to see her all that much, so figured little things like this will keep him thinking about her and hopefully be something for him to look forward to.  I got a trick or treat bag that was cute, got some bouncy balls that looked like eyeballs, a RIP gravestone with a bat ink stamp (why do kids love stamps so much), a little craft for he and Hubbs to do together where they put different faces on pumpkins.  Basically a less messy version of carving your pumpkin and then some candy.  I got him a card and inside wanted to give him a picture of he and little H.  I told Hubbs that I put in like 10 pictures and he could give those to his dad, and sisters so they would have some printed pictures of little H.  He said ok, and I thought that was that.

Well Hubbs got home Sunday from his weekend visit with the son, and I found out he sent all those pictures home with the son.  UGH.....I not only spent a lot of time getting them downloaded, and printed off, the last thing I wanted was PEG to have all these pictures of just my daughter.  I don't know why but it really upset me.  I know Hubbs didn't do anything on purpose, he didn't remember me saying that to him before he left, I didn't tell him how much it bothered me, but I just do not want to share those precious moments with someone like PEG.  It is so frustrating.  Its not like the son wants all these pics of his little sister, and to be honest even PEG probably thought it was weird.  I asked Hubbs if we could ask for the pics back if the son wasn't displaying them in his room (they are probably already thrown away) and he said well why don't we just give my family other ones, which frustrated me even more because I spent a lot of time on getting these pics to begin with.  Its not like we can just print them off at our house or something.  I was honestly surprised at how much it bothered me initially.  I have gotten over it now, nothing can undo it now. 

PEG has always had this weird mindset we are all a family, and tries to include herself in things I personally do not think are her business, and keeps us in the loop with things we would rather just not know.  If her and hubbs had shared a life together, been married I would better understand her motive for wanting to be this way, but having barely known Hubbs and never really having a relationship is just odd to me.  Maybe she wants it to appear like less of a mistake than it was, who knows.   Or she has yet to get over hubbs and wants to keep him in her life as much as possible.  I don't know, but what I do know is we already have to share the son with her, that is hard enough.  If the son wants to tell her things about our family, and about little H whatever, more power to him.  I just do not want to share photos of her or our life that doesn't involve PEG.  I know this sounds stupid but I guess I am focused more on the principle part of it.  Luckily she never said anything to Hubbs, or if she did, he didn't tell me.

The blended family saga continues...