A Less Involved PEG

Yes you read the title right, PEG has slowly stepped further and further from our world, and her self-proclaimed spotlight.  Gone (hopefully, at least very few and far between) are the days where Hubbs would get endless texts, phone calls, over him being a bad dad, or something he did wrong to her or to the son.  Gone are the days where PEG would feel the need to contact Hubbs on a daily basis.

Is she annoying?  Yes, she is a woman who had a baby with Hubbs, her mere existence is annoying, but her son, the son is a blessing in our lives, and someone I am thankful for.  I truly believe that once she really realized Hubbs was never going to be "hers" and having his baby was not going to be her ticket out of her life, that once she truly accepted that and moved on and tried to find some sort of happiness, all of our lives were better for it.  Part of the reason for her craziness was her age, and the situation she put herself in.  She still won't ever admit fault or wrong doing but I think down deep she has realized on some sort of level her responsibility in this, and she has stopped blaming Hubbs for every little bad thing that has ever happened to her.

It wasn't until we got married, and had a baby of our own for her to really start retracting.  She fought for 6 long hard years (including pregnancy) and finally, finally I think she is stopping the fight and going on with life as usual.  I hope this is the case. Will we ever be friends?  No, but I respect she is the son's mother and as long as she respects our life, doesn't try and poison the son against us I am fine with her.

Our situation is what it is, she has failed countless times, and will continue to do so.  But I know she does love her son, I just hope someday she puts him first and hopefully someday she will realize the pain she has caused and never go back to being that person.  I think things are going good for her, she has a house, she has a good job, she has a boyfriend.  They seem happy, she seems happy, and in return she leaves us pretty much alone.  I do feel for the son though, he has grown up in a very inconsistent world, with little to no stability.  You can't choose your parents, and I see how happy he is with us, but I know he loves his mom, and would never want to be without her either.  Its tough to see a child sad because they can't be with both parents more often.

PEG is crazy, she is a lot of things, a lot of things I would consider bad but she is his mom, and there is nothing any of us can do to change that.  Hubbs recently paid a visit up north and asked PEG if he could see the son.  His visit wasn't planned, and she kindly let Hubbs have the son.  Come to find out, she had been out of town for work, and the first time she had seen the son in a few days was driving him to see Hubbs.  He had spent nights with PEG's sister and his cousins and was exhausted.  He feel asleep in the car ride over and PEG had to wake the son up to go see Hubbs.  Hubbs said he had been cranky and you could tell he was overally tired.  She was heading to work (night) and was going to be taking the son to stay at her mom's house, so thankfully Hubbs was there to give the poor kid a night with a parent.  Its times like those (and I think Hubbs realized had he not dropped in he never would have known she was out of town) that we wish he could live with us full time.  He would get every evening and every weekend with us.  Our work schedules don't change and he wouldn't be taken from place to place, sleeping in different places, never knowing what adventure is around the corner. 

Hubbs had the son call PEG late that night before going to sleep, because he was crying for her, and told Hubbs he missed his mom. He hadn't seen her in several days and again was TIRED.  She was at work, and wouldn't leave so Hubbs had her call the son.  That helped calm him down, and the son went to sleep, FINALLY.  PEG then texted Hubbs saying that the next time he decides to drop in unannounced she will not be so nice.  She said this is confusing for the son, and Hubbs was making him sad. 

So maybe I wrote this post too soon.  If PEG can't see that her work schedule, her fluctuations in her schedule, the son's daily schedule changing day to day are the issues, maybe things hadn't changed as much as I had hoped.  Breaks my heart to see the son hurting.  I wish she could put him first....